I don’t like labels. I don’t like the work-at-home, stay-at-home, or working mother titles. We all work in our own way, and we are all doing the best we can.
Therefore, if you don’t leave the house for a normal 9-5, I consider you an at-home mom; simply put.
Being an at-home mom comes with plenty of stereotypes, many of which are true. Getting dressed is a daily challenge, and cleaning…OMG…the mountains of laundry never stop. And “me” time!? What is that? It’s a foreign term.
Here are 5 sanity savers for the at-home mom.
Note: I do NOT claim to do all the below. It’s a constant work in progress.
1. Give yourself a small allowance
And by small, I’m talking a few bucks. All I seem to buy is baby stuff: diapers, wipes, toys, etc, totally disregarding the fact I’ve had 2 pedicures in a year and can’t remember the last time I bought myself a new shirt. I’m not suggesting you splurge on a monthly shopping spree, but I do suggest allotting yourself some “me” money.
2. Find an outlet
Maintaining a sense of self is VERY important. If you like writing, start a blog. If you like cooking, create a recipe book. If you like photography, take fun pictures of your kids. Do something (anything!) that reminds you you’re more than a mother.
3. Get ready once a week
I used to get dolled up on a daily basis for work. I’d wear stilettos, trendy dresses, and I’d have my hair blown and full make-up. Fast forward to now…I take a 5 second shower, throw my hair up, put on leggings, and consider myself ready for the day. Truly, it’s unrealistic and unnecessary to get overly ready on a daily basis, but it is important to “put your face on” at least once a week. Remind yourself you are still a beautiful woman who cares about herself.
4. Give yourself a break
Being an at-home mom is a beautiful blessing, a wonderful privilege, and a total joy. You never miss a first, and you really have the opportunity to befriend your children, get to know them, play with them, snuggle them, and savor them. With that being said, some days are tough. Some days your toddler just won’t nap, the house can’t get clean, you’re utterly exhausted, you feel like crap, and you want to scream. And so, grant yourself permission that on those days, to take a break. Flip on the TV to occupy your child. Lay down with your baby. You’re human. Breathe.
5. Lose the guilt
At-home mothers are a luxury to your spouse. You are doing the most important job in the world, whether or not it’s bringing home the bacon. Just because you don’t leave the house at 9am and return at 5pm, doesn’t mean your job isn’t significant. You are mothering your children and taking care of the home, many while working “a real job” from home. Don’t feel guilty. Enjoy this time. Years from now you won’t look back wishing things had been different.
Written by: Nadine Bubeck
Nadine Bubeck is a TV Personality, author, lifestyle blogger, and fashion designer, having founded Mama B. Designs: boutique apparel that benefits March of Dimes. The Valley-based parenting contributor is a blessed boy mom times three. (nadinebubeck.com)